"Form Follows Weyrey"

Let’s get something out of the way:
I’m not a self-awareness guru. I’ve never meditated with incense, my legs folded in lotus pose like The Buddha
(Okay, maybe once… and omo, my body hear am that day)

But I’ve lived. I’ve embarrassed myself. I’ve carefully curated my outfit to impress an alté baddie who didn't remember my name the next week.
And somewhere in the middle of those L’s, I started noticing my why.
That, my friend, is where self-awareness begins.

Self-Awareness is Not Aesthetic. It’s Not Fake Aura. It's Architectural.

It’s not moodboards, zodiac signs, or being mysterious and nonchalant. It's not calling yourself “deep” because you listen to some of Brymo's songs.
It’s brutal honesty. No filter. Just you—under construction.

Self-awareness is the foundation, the brutalist concrete slab beneath all your surface vibes.

Ask Yourself the Hard Stuff (Without the Filter)

You have to ask:

• “Is this thought mine?”

• “Whose validation am I chasing?”

• “Do I even like this, or am I just performing?”

These questions aren’t cute. They’re uncomfortable.
But they’ll show you where the cracks are.
And that’s how you start rebuilding—honestly.

Let’s Talk Values. Yes, Actual Values.

Values are the good things you want vs the nonsense you refuse to settle for.

They're your personal Quality Control system.
Not trends. Not tweets. Not what Tunde Ednut finds funny this week.

"No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell." – Carl Jung

Think of values like structural beams in architecture:
Invisible but load-bearing.
If you don't have them, your form collapses the moment someone questions your vibe.

How to Become More Self-Aware

Here’s your starter toolkit—tested, brutal, and real:

1. Watch Your Thoughts Like DSTV
   No need to judge them. Just observe. Let them pass like clouds. Sometimes na nonsense dey your head, and that’s okay. Awareness starts when you stop auto-reacting.

2. Identify Your Values
   Write down what actually matters to you.
   Think of values like concrete pillars—if dem no strong, your whole structure go fall when trend shift.

3. Discipline Your Mind
   Not every thought deserves your attention.
   Select your focus like you’re curating your playlist.
   If it no align with your values—skip am.

4. Have a Spiritual Activity (No Be by Force, But Try Small)
   Pray, meditate, stay silent.
   Sometimes the loudest answers come in the quietest moments.

5. Speak From Your Core
   Ask: “Is this my thought or just something I saw on someone’s IG story

6. Ask Your Friends to Roast You (Lovingly)
   Real ones only.
   Ask them: “What’s one thing wey I dey do wey I no dey realize?”
   Brace yourself—but listen.

7. Read, Abeg Read
   Books help you download higher versions of yourself. Read or listen to audiobooks. Here are some personal recommendations;

   • Maps of Meaning – Jordan Peterson

   • 12 Rules for Life – Jordan Peterson

   • Focus – Daniel Goleman

   • Emotional Intelligence – Daniel Goleman

   • 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Stephen Covey

   Self-awareness dey page 43. Not on TikTok.

   

8. Do Things Outside Yourself
   Start a small garden in your backyard. Feed a dog. Clean your street (if you're feeling adventurous).
   Detach from your own ego small. The world no dey revolve around your main character energy.

9. Try New Things
   Don’t be predictable.
   Paint. Skate. Do pottery. Try spoken word—but don't wear turtle neck pls (Lmao).
   Try stuff. Fail. Discover what feels real to you. That’s how you find what fits.

Self-Awareness is Not Deep. It’s Honest.

It's not about becoming mysterious and spiritual.
It’s about noticing why you reacted the way you did when you heard of your friend's success.
It’s catching yourself dressing a certain way not because it feels like you—but because you think you'll get 10k likes on IG when you post your fit pic.

It’s simple. It’s not easy.
But it’s where all your power starts.

So... What Now?

Keep a Voice Journal.

• Every day for one week, sit alone and record your raw thoughts.

• Say anything. Everything. No filter. No grammar police.

• Then listen back.

Warning: you might cringe.
Also: you might meet the real you.
(He/she/they may just need small alignment.)

Self-awareness is not that deep.
But it’s real. And rare. And mad useful.

You can't build strong identity if you no first inspect the foundation.

So, don’t try to look like you know yourself.
Actually know thy form.
We’ll build the rest later.

— Article 1 of the Wokebot Manifesto.

Stay weird.
Be brutal. Be Wokebot.